A thinking boundary violation happens when someone tries to control or manipulate your thoughts. This can be done in a number of ways, such as:
Telling you what to think. This could involve outright stating their opinion as fact, or using subtler language to suggest that their way of thinking is the only right way.
Discrediting your thoughts. This could involve telling you that your thoughts are wrong, crazy, or stupid. They may also try to invalidate your feelings by saying that you're overreacting or being too sensitive.
Trying to change your mind. This could involve arguing with you, trying to convince you that their way of thinking is better, or using emotional appeals to make you feel guilty or obligated to agree with them.
Boundary violations can be harmful because they can erode your sense of self-trust and autonomy. If you find yourself in a situation where someone is trying to control or manipulate your thoughts, it's important to set boundaries and assert yourself. You can do this by:
Acknowledge that the other person is trying to control your thoughts. This can be difficult, but it's important to be aware of what's happening so that you can take steps to protect yourself.
Express your own thoughts and feelings. This doesn't mean that you have to agree with the other person, but it's important to let them know how their behavior is affecting you.
Set boundaries. Let the other person know that you're not willing to let them control your thoughts. This could involve telling them to stop trying to change your mind, or to respect your right to have different opinions.
FYI: Compelling or persuading people to lie or knowingly misrepresent the truth......is a boundary violation.
(Remember, for someone who is controlling of others, no amount of power and control is enough.)