As I was looking for more articles about the prom lottery as I previously spoke about, I stumbled upon this article. This article is talking about how boys at a school in California are choosing their prom dates in an NFL-style draft. They put numbers in a bowl, and pass around the bowl and pick a number. The lower the number the better it is for that guy. Supposedly one guy paid $140 for a better number to be able to ask the girl of his choice. This article angers me because these guys are objectifying women and basically treating them as they are prizes to be won. They are more concerned about their numbers in a fake draft to consider these are actual girls they are talking about that have actual feelings. No one is thinking about whether or not these girls would even want to go with these guys or whether or not they want to be a part of the draft.
I seriously enjoyed this article. From the way it was written, to the topic, I read the whole thing and liked what I was reading. In this article, it talks about how a school in Illinois does a “lottery” when it comes to prom. The junior and senior boys pick a girls’ name out of a hat, and then ask that girl to prom. You might be quick to think that is a bad or chaotic idea, but the students vote to continue that system every year. That is such a cool idea because it forces people to go out of their comfort zones, and maybe meet someone that if they weren’t forced to go to prom with them, they probably would never talk to them. It also takes the stress of of each student worrying about whether or not they will have a date.
This article follows a 17-year old girl and things she learned at the prom. This article, as opposed to previous ones, focuses on just girls and their experiences with prom. She learns things like: you need money to go to prom, beauty is valued above all else, getting likes on instagram by posting every aspect of your night, and being straight is better in terms of finding a date. That was interesting to me; I never really gave same sex dates to prom a second thought. Your school should not be able to send you home or not let you go to a dance just because of who you bring whether or not they are the same sex as you. It makes me sad because prom and dances in general should just be fun times with your friends enjoying the night not worrying about who they can or can’t be with.
This article was most likely written for people who like to bash millennials. By the way it was written, it seems as though our generation is being made fun of for the way they do prom nowadays as compared to how it used to be done. What I do like about this article, in the midst of its judgy vibes, is how it is formatted. It takes the most important aspects of prom, sections them off, and talks about each individual section. They also use quotes from actual high school kids, and get their take on different things.
This is less of an article and more of statistics of prom. According to the statistic, 59% of people think prom is overrated, while 41% percent of people think it is important. Most Americans (53%) did not actually attend their prom. A statistic like that makes me wonder that if such a big number of people DIDN’T attend their own prom, why do these people (who are parents, mentors, leaders, etc.) make prom seem like such a big deal? Is it because some parents didn’t attend their own prom and feel like they’re missing out on something? Do they regret not going? Are they trying to live through their kids?
What hooked me to this article was how the title started with the words “Real Talk.” That made me feel like I was sitting down and catching up with the author over coffee rather than being parented about prom. She proceeds to tell about her one prom experience, and how everything that could have gone wrong that night, did. I liked her point-of-view which was that if you wanted to go to prom, do it but if you didn’t, then you shouldn’t go. If you do go, you will make fun memories with your friends, just make sure not to put too much stress on yourself to have a good time. If you don’t go, don’t stress because you most likely won’t remember it years from then, and you will have so many more parties in college and your lifetime.
Surprise: it’s another list!!!! This one is about why prom is not a big deal despite “every high school movie ever.” What I liked most about this article (despite the fact it was talking about skipping out on a school dance) was the analogy made at the beginning. The author states how prom movies hype prom up to be the best night of your life when in actuality it is just another night of your life and really does not matter. She compares prom to the Oscars; people getting all dolled up, and celebrating the end of a season (prom, the end of a school year, Oscars, the end of awards season). She then goes on to say, “But if an A-list Hollywood star doesn't make it to the Oscars, or for whatever reason is not invited, do you think it really makes a negative impact on their lives in the long run? No. And the same is true for prom.” And I really liked that analogy and it stuck out to me.
Prom is separated into three phases in this article: the selection/ rejection phase, the preparation/planning phase, and the experience/enjoyment phase. The first phase, selection/rejection, is where students are either asking people to prom or waiting to get asked which is stressful either way. In preparation/planning, the second phase, people get stressed in trying to look their absolute best, trying to get the best possible transportation, trying to plan the best after parties, etc. Lastly, in the experience/enjoyment phase, there is stress in trying to always have fun, or just make it seem as though you are always having fun. It seems as though the more money people spend on prom, the higher the expectations for the night get, and the more disappointment there is whenever the night isn’t how it was expected to be.
This article is much like the ones in my first set of digital readings were: good ole lists. This one is about 7 Reasons Why Prom is Important. The author talks about how prom is considered a rite of passage to many young people because it is like the point between childhood and adulthood. People talk up prom with all of these high expectations and high standards when in actuality, it is just a dance. It should not define you as a person, and if you consider prom “the best night of your life,” I feel bad for you because that means you probably peaked in high school. Prom is a special experience for seniors as it is their last school dance, but I feel like society needs to stop putting so much pressure on students and prom.
This article explains why prom is so important in the first place. There is this magical expectation that prom is supposed to be the “Best Night of Your Life” and that it is basically like a rite of passage to go to prom. In the 1950s, prom was threatened to be cancelled at some schools because of how competitive the most dazzling dresses and elaborate decorations got. Promenade, or Prom as it was later shortened to, started off as a college co-ed banquet. This idea of a formal co-ed get together for graduating seniors trickled down from higher education to high school. It doesn’t really do a great job at explaining why prom is so important-which is the title of the article-but it does explain the history of prom pretty well.
As I got to thinking about high school dances, I started thinking about high school relationships. Many of my friends are in them, and I just wondered what they hype is about them, and what’s the psychology of them. Two percent of marriages are from relationships that started in high school. There is a debate whether or not love is real to high schoolers. Some say that love in high school helps people later on in life to grow. Others believe high schoolers are not mature enough, or haven’t met enough people to determine if they’re in “love.”
When you think about middle school, do you think “best time of your life?” Probably not. Do you even think it was at all important or relevant to life? Again probably not. But according to research, middle school is a crucial time of moral development in one’s life. They are finally reaching the age where they realize that rules were made by adults and are irrational. They haven’t grasped the concept that rules were set in place for a reason and that reason is to protect the wellbeing of others. Middle school is a tough time in one’s life, and now there is research to back up why.
This article interests me because its something prevalent in my own life. It talks about the evolution of the school dance culture. How the prom, something that was once a nice gathering to teach teens etiquette, has become a dance with inappropriate dancing and behavior. What I noticed the most in my own history of dances is afterparties. What used to be fun times at Borden’s with everyone talking about the dance over ice cream has now turned into house parties that no one remembers because they were too drunk to. It makes me sad to think of how much times have changed, and how much I would do to be back in the days of middle school dances and Borden’s after.
This article (also talking about promposals) looks at whether the guys doing the acts are doing it out of love and affection for the girl or for themselves. The article includes many videos, all of which show elaborate prom askings, and then after the girl says yes, the guy who asked gets swarmed with people cheering around him as to congratulate him. I feel as though as the years go by, and social media becomes a bigger part of our lives, people are becoming more and more self obsessed (ahem, the invention of the word SELFIE in 2013). All of these guys (and girls in some cases) are less focused on going with the person of their choosing but with how they will ask, and how far can they go to get the best promposal.
As prom has gotten more and more extravagant over the years, so has the way people ask their dates. It’s called a promposal; just search that word on Google or YouTube and you will find hundreds of guys asking girls to a dance in many different ways. Teddy bears, candy, food, flash mobs are just a few examples. How did we as a society go from just asking the simple question to their girl of choice (“Would you like to go to prom with me?”) to these elaborate askings. But why do these guys feel the need to be so extravagant? Some say it’s their way of showing dominance, showing off to their friends, competing in who’s the better man and who can spend the most money.
This article starts with a story of a girl and her sister and parents out shopping for the sister’s prom dress. They go to an expensive store with more dresses than imaginable, but she ends up getting her dress at a cheaper department store. The author notes how prom has become fanticized because it has all the elements of a popular story; coming of age, fancy dresses, tension, drama, limos, king and queen, and romance. But it wasn’t always this way; prom used to be much less formal. It started out as a way to teach college students etiquette and migrated to high school students in hope of the same outcome. The author raises an interesting point when she questions if schools would put all the money and effort that they do in prom into education, then what would students’ educational experience be like?
Why do kids curse? Adults may be quick to judge the media, television, music, but in fact it is parents that kids get their language from. One thing I thought was interesting was how kids’ peers have a big affect on them. A psychologist from Harvard noted that is why kids of immigrants end up with accents of their peers rather than that of their parents. It is crazy to me how big of an impact people can have in each other’s lives. The way we speak and the words we choose to say have an impact greater than we even know.
This article is hilarious to me because its written by a rap-loving mom who has a 14-year old daughter who she is concerned about. She was nervous at first about whether or not she should censor what her daughter is listening to but then she realizes that no matter how much she tries to shelter her kid, the world and the media will find them. They will find and hear uncensored music whether they like it or not. Just because they listen to music about drugs, sex, and other vulgar topics does not mean they will become a drug dealing prostitute. Music is a form of expressing yourself and different sounds and styles sound different to everyone.
When I read the title of this article I was mad yet curious; I mean, I LOVE school dances, and so do all my friends, so I had a hard time imagining there are people who don’t enjoy them. Basically all the things the author hates is all the things that every other “20 things you loved at your school dances”-type article said was the best. I’m willing to bet the author had a bad experience at their first dance, or was one of those angry middle schoolers who thought everything was dumb. They are basically taking the best elements of a dance, and making them sound a whole lot worse than they actually were. Although I did not like what the article was about, I liked the new view point of dances.
This article’s argument was about whether or not explicit music should be played at a school dance. One school believed explicit music should NOT be played at their dances, and even went as far as to make a Twitter page for students to tweet music they wanted to hear. I feel like explicit music should be played at high school dances, definitely not at middle school dances though. For middle schoolers, they don’t need to be exposed to that kind of stuff at a young age, they still need to enjoy being kids. I feel like high school is a different story. I feel like these kids have already been exposed to profanity because it is everywhere; movies, tv shows, music, etc. And besides, if you have ever actually been to a high school dance, you know that no matter how hard they try to censor out a word, every person in the room will scream the curse word louder than the speakers. I liked this article because it brought up a point about dances that I guess I never really thought of as an issue.
I was drawn to this article because it talks about the history of prom. Prom was originally supposed to be a party for students to promote social etiquette and manners in each graduating class. This article features specific examples and connections. I’m curious about how prom went from an event to promote manners to the wild night it has become. How did it get to where it is now? How has the behavior at prom changed? How did the tradition of school dances start? How has behavior at school dances changed over time? How does culture affect behavior at a dance?
https://lens.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/03/30/young-lives-big-night/?action=click&contentCollection=Opinion&module=RelatedCoverage®ion=EndOfArticle&pgtype=article The most interesting elements in this article is the personal anecdote/experience that goes along with the story. The author is a photographer who spent years photographing proms around America and observing how the dress and behavior of prom goers reflected their cultural differences. She also includes some of the pictures in the second link. Because of this article, I am curious about how cultural differences reflect dances. How does a person’s culture affect their dance experience? What kind of impact does prom-or any school dance for that matter-affect one’s life?
What drew me to this article was the point it was making abput how prom was not so much a dance rather than a night that teens psychologically try to make “the best night ever” based on unrealistic expectations from the media. The author uses many elements in her writing: specific examples, comparisons and connections, and personal anecdote/experience. This wide variety of elements helps the author further establish and prove her point, all while being easy to follow. This article makes me wonder, have there been scientific studies done to prove the psychology behind prom? Does the importance/excitement of prom differ culturally? Does this psychology of having “the best night ever” start in middle school at those dances? Because of this article, I would like to continue to read about the psychology behind prom (or school dances in general) and learn more about that.
I like how this article starts out with a personal anecdote-like thing about middle school dances. The author continues with her list of “9 Times A Middle School Dance Scarred You For Life.” Each number is accompanied with a gif, and a little funny description of each. Based on this article, I might construct my paper in a list form. I could write about relatable things and memories from dances I’ve been to. I could also focus on the music and how big an impact it has.
This article, much like the previous ones, is another list. It lists 10 things that were awkward about middle school dances. It starts out with a little person anecdote about the author and her experience with middle school dances. It goes on to list 10 things the author picked that were the most awkward, cringe-worthy moments from middle school dances. Based on this article, I will consider whether or not I should write my topic as a list, and which part of the dance I should focus on. Should I focus on events before/after a dance? Should I focus on dress codes at dances? Should I focus on music at a dance?
What drew me to this article was the title “20 Things Every Girl Remembers From Middle School Dances,” and how easy the list was to read. The list was of 20 things that were universal struggles/memories from middle school dances. The most interesting element of this article was how it was in a list format, with the struggle/memory in bold, and then a little description or memory of that specific incident following it. It is easy to read, it included pictures and gifs, and it was not too long nor too short of a list to read. This article makes me wonder whether or not a list gets the point across better based off of the topic I am talking about.
Some songs I could use as my mentor text that I listened to at school dances: -”Yeah” by Usher -”Get Low” by Lil’ John -”Hey Ya” by Outkast -”Tipsy” by J-Kwon -”Hollaback Girl” by Gwen Stefani -”Cha-Cha Slide” by DJ Casper Any of these songs I could use as my mentor text and really analyze the songs and how they played a part in the school dances I’ve been to.
What instantly drew me to this article, besides the interesting title (“Anatomy Of A Middle School Dance”), was how the article was written. It starts off as a narrative between a mother and her daughter, as she is being dropped off at a school dance. The article goes on to describe the narrator’s inner thoughts and feelings as she goes through the school dance. It is relatable because I remember having some of the same inner thoughts and feelings when it came to middle school dances. Based on this article, I might write a paper styled similar to this one. I could take personal experiences/memories and create an “anatomy of an Ascension school dance.”
What made me interested in this article was how absurd it is that schools make students sign contracts to abstain from “sexually explicit” dancing before attending a dance. This article then goes on to list the craziest dance trends among teens throughout history; from the Renaissance with the Volta, to the Jitterbug, even the Soulja Boy was deemed “inappropriate” by parents and teachers alike. This article uses specific examples of dance styles that caused a frenzy by parents. I like how this article is constructed; with a description of the dance, why it made parents so upset, and also including a video of the dance to give a visual, further proving their point. I might use this text to continue researching dance styles throughout history and possibly talk about how dancing at school dances has changed over time.
This article caught my attention as soon as I read the title: “Is social media killing the school dance? Schools cancel dances as teens opt out.” It is interesting to me how some schools have low attendances at school dances, especially considering how many people attend our dances. The article uses many person-on-the street quotes to get people’s personal opinions and feelings on the subject. Based on this article, I could write about how social media affects school dances; however, my school still has good attendance to our dances. This could be in part of how few dances we have throughout the school year, which I could also include.