In Shawn Mendes song “Treat you Better” he sees how a girl is being treated badly in her current relationship and sees that she deserves better but doesn’t realize her worth. He feels that he can treat her better than her current. He is tying the girl to leave her current relationship for him. “I know I can treat you better than he can, and any girl like you deserves a gentleman. Tell me why are we wasting time on all your wasted crying' when you should be with me instead. I know I can treat you better, better than he can.” These lines from his hit song can relate a lot to how Gatsby is feeling about the situation he deals with throughout the book. He is still in love with Daisy after he returns from the war and wants things to go back to how they were. He sees that Tom does not treat Daisy right and wants to show her that she deserves better. He is successfully able to show Daisy the gentlemen that he is and shows her a new side to guys. While still I another relationship Daisy agrees to give Gatsby another chance because she is missing something in her current marriage that she feels Gatsby can give her. Daisy is able to get the attention she is trying to seek in her current relationship with another person and seemed to be into it. All the attention Gatsby was giving her was clearly not enough because she still chose Tom in the end, unable to realize her worth.
This article from www.psychologytoday.com shows us that the most frequent reason as to why people cheat had to do with sex. A lot of the time they wished to have more sex than they were having now with their current partner. Another common answer was the “need” for an emotional connection. Participants reported that they weren’t emotionally satisfied with their current relationship or they wished to gain additional emotional connection or validation from another source. Very little people reported that their reasons for cheating were because they either fell out of love with their partner or fell in love with the new partner. In The Great Gatsby the word “infidelity” comes up a lot and the cause of this comes from both physical and emotional fantasies and desires. One of the quotes I used came from Chapter 7. It said, "Oh, you want too much!" she cried to Gatsby. "I love you now – isn't that enough? I can't help what's past." She began to sob helplessly. "I did love him once – but I loved you too" (261). This quote shows that Daisy and Gatsby’s little fling that they had was more than just a physical connection, they had emotional feelings for each other. It appears that when Daisy and Gatsby reconnected she let herself fall for him a little because Tom was not giving her the emotional attention she needed. The article states that partners cheat on one another when they need extra connections or attention and that's exactly what Daisy did to Tom because she needed Tom. This same thing occurred in Tom’s secret affair with Myrtle. The only difference was that Tom and Myrtle's connection was more of a physical want.
“And I know that he knows I'm unfaithful, And it kills him inside, To know that I am happy with some other guy, I can see him dying” in Rihanna’s song Unfaithful reminds me of Daisy and Tom’s relationship throughout the book. This song basically talks about how Rihanna was not being treated right in her relationship and finds someone else to make her feel better and how she could see how jealous her ex was about it. In the Great Gatsby when Tom cheats Daisy looks to make him jealous by seeing Gatsby. She knew that Tom would be bitter to the fact that she was doing that to him even though he was doing it to her too. This once again goes to show that out of spite and feelings Daisy wanted to experience she cheated on Tom with someone she knew she had temporary feelings for. Tom was doing something wrong so Daisy put someone else in his place to fill her desires.
Drake’s song Fake Love talks about how people show “fake love” and are fake just so they can get what they want. In The Great Gatsby, Daisy does a great job of this by convincing Gatsby that she had fallen back in love with him after those 5 years. Drake’s lines “I got fake people showin' fake love to me, Straight up to my face” reminds me of her because she pretty much lied right to Gatsby’s face about her true feelings for him. Daisy was unsatisfied by what Tom was giving her so she went to someone she knew would fill that space in her heart. So for that short moment of happiness she felt from Gatsby that she wasn’t getting from Tom she lied to him about her true feelings, showing Gatsby “fake love”. Even though Daisy might of had feelings for Gatsby she clearly shows that it wasn’t enough when she chose to leave with Tom instead of Gatsby’s funeral.
The happiest, most fantasized marriages and relationships aren't always as ‘perfect” as they appear. www.theatlantic.com helps readers understand why in today's society why it is so likely that people cheat. Expectations in today’s relationships has drastically increased and those desires are not being fulfilled which is why infidelity occurs so much now. They state that for much of history people’s “feelings” came from economic stability and social cohesion rather then affection and compassion. Couples now still want everything the traditional family was meant to provide like security, respectability, property, and children. But now we also want our partner to love us, to desire us, to be interested in us. So when people in relationships aren’t getting everything they want they feel the need to seek out others who can fill that emptiness, no matter how happy they may be in their current relationship. In The Great Gatsby it appears that Tom is happy and has everything he needs. Apparently Tom’s heart and soul says otherwise. “He nodded sagely. And what's more, I love Daisy too. Once in a while I go off on a spree and make a fool of myself, but I always come back, and in my heart I love her all the time” (131). This quote shows that yes Tom is happy with Daisy and loves Daisy unconditionally but feels an emptiness somewhere in his heart that tells him to go and cheat on her. Which helps come back to the conclusion that even the happiest people, living the best life still cheat.
This article from www.forbes.com statistically shows that people who have cheated in their first relationships were three times more likely to continue to cheat in that current relationship or cheat in their next relationships. I chose this article because it dealt with the fact that the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater” is proven to be very likely true. This relates back to The Great Gatsby because both Daisy and Myrtle were both aware that Tom was participating in 2 different sexual relationships that involved the both of them. Neither of the girls wanted to leave him because they were so deeply in love with him and were able to see past the bad and only focus on the good things they experienced, which is why they both continued to stay. One of the quotes I used was one from Chapter 2 when they talk about how Tom was disrespectful to Myrtle and Daisy. “The fact that he had one was insisted upon wherever he was known. His acquaintances resented the fact that he turned up in popular restaurants with her and, leaving her at a table, sauntered about, chatting with whomever he knew”(24). In this qoute Tom is disrespecting Daisy because he made her look stupid by being out on a date with another girl in public in front of the whole town. Myrtle was being disrespected because while they were out together Tom just left her at the table by herself to go talk to other people. Both girls knew they were getting disrespected but continued to just “let it happen” and stayed in unhealthy relationships. They loved Tom so much and thought that he loved them back so they settled and failed to realize that, “once a cheater, always a cheater”.